It’s Now Illegal for Your Partner to do These Things


The Hull Daily Mail took a look at the things which are now illegal for your partner to do:

Physical abuse has been illegal for decades and it’s the first thing we think of when we hear the term ‘domestic violence’ but under this law, psychological abuse is now being recognised as a crime.

Earlier this year Tobias Coggins was sentenced for two offences of coercive and controlling behaviour after he prohibited his partner from brushing her teeth or washing her hair.

A possessive and jealous Coggins, who was 17 to 18 at the time, wouldn’t allow his younger girlfriend to have a bath unless he was ‘sat on the toilet seat watching’.

Then he would proceed to forbid her from washing her hair because ‘if she had greasy hair, at least nobody at school would fancy her’.

Constantly being insulted by your partner? You might not think this is domestic abuse, but the new law says this persistent name-calling, mocking and other insulting behaviour is illegal. Alison Saunders, director of public prosecutions, said: “Being subjected to repeated humiliation, intimidation or subordination can be as harmful as physical abuse, with many victims stating that trauma from psychological abuse had a more lasting impact than physical abuse.”

Another one is scaring you, it might not be physically assaulting you but if they are doing enough to frighten you. It could be using their size to intimidate toy, shouting, destroying your belongings, punching walls. Then there’s the more obvious things such as possessing a knife or gun and threatening to kill or harm you.

One thing some people may not be as aware of is threats of suicide. If your partner tells you they will harm themselves if you leave them, this is also covered by the law.

If your partner continually isolates you from the people that love you, alarm bells should ring. Whether it takes the form of monitoring or blocking your calls or emails, telling you where you can or cannot go, or stopping you seeing your friends or relatives, this behaviour is against the law.

The Crown Prosecution Service guidelines says these include rules which ‘humiliate, degrade or dehumanise the victim’, while Women’s Aid says examples include telling you that you have no choice in decisions.

Next up is controlling what you wear or generally taking over any part of your life.

The CPS director of public prosecutions, Alison Saunders, said: “These new powers mean this behaviour, which is particularly relevant to cases of domestic abuse, can now be prosecuted in its own right.

If you, or someone you know, is in an abusive relationship, you can report your concerns to police