She said she had a miscarriage 20 years ago and “felt like I failed.”
Michelle Obama is opening up about her life in a new memoir, Becoming. And in the book, she reveals she struggled with fertility issues before conceiving her two daughters, Sasha and Malia.
The former first lady opened up to ABC News anchor Robin Roberts about her struggles with conception and spoke about her experiences with a frank, refreshing honesty.
“I felt lost and alone, and I felt like I failed because I didn’t know how common miscarriages were, because we don’t talk about them,” Obama said. “We sit in our own pain, thinking that somehow we’re broken. That’s one of the reasons why I think it’s important to talk to young mothers about the fact that miscarriages happen.”
“I think it’s the worst thing that we do to each other as women, not share the truth about our bodies and how they work, and how they don’t work,” she said.
“Marriage counseling for us was one of those ways where we learned how to talk out our differences,” she said. “I know too many young couples who struggle and think that somehow there’s something wrong with them. And I want them to know that Michelle and Barack Obama, who have a phenomenal marriage and who love each other, we work on our marriage. And we get help with our marriage when we need it.”
She also said she underwent in vitro fertilization in her mid-30s in order to conceive her two daughters, after realizing “the biological clock is real, because egg production is limited.”